7 Tips for Keeping Love Alive

Routine is the deadly killer of fun and romance. Here are 7 tips to keep the spark alive!


1. Keep Things Interesting. Learn as much as you can about what your partner enjoys, what he/she likes, and of course, hopefully you like those things too. Then plan to actually DO these things - together!

2. Don't lose the "date night" energy that's always there at the beginning! Plan a date night at least once a week - or as often as is realistic for you.

3. Surprise him - all men love surprises. Show him you're thinking about him in the little ways that count. Leave a note for him, do something special, buy some sexy lingerie - whatever you think he'll enjoy!

4. Plan romance - how about something sexy? Perhaps a bubble bath for two with candle light? Get creative! It doesn't have to cost money to have a fun, sexy, romantic time!

5. Keep flirting! It's necessary to keep the sparks flying!

6. Don't get overly comfortable. Pay attention to the things you paid attention to in the beginning! Be sure you look your best, your breath is fresh, your hair looks nice. If you wear makeup, keep it up! Be yourself, but don't let yourself go now that you've "got him".

7. Keep your Positive Attitude! It's easy to be positive in the beginning when things are exciting! But, as you get to know each other, it's easy to begin picking on the negatives. We're all human. We all have our "stuff".  Focus on the positive things you found that attracted you in the beginning. This is not to suggest however, that you ignore red flags.

And speaking of Red Flags .... that's another topic for another day. Stay tuned ...

In Laws?? Outlaws??

Read my article published in Boomer Living Magazine! For anyone who has ventured into outlaw territory this is a must read!

Disabled Couple Finds Love!

I recently had a most rewarding experience, matching two disabled people who otherwise never would have had the opportunity to meet. Both are wonderful, smart, educated, hard-working, devoted people. Both have striven endlessly to overcome their physical challenges. Both have limited opportunity to go out, socialize, and meet new people.

As a matchmaker, my greatest joy is helping bring two people together so they can find love. In this case, it was even more rewarding.  Life's challenges often become love's challenges.  For me, this was a wonderful way of helping two people find happiness.

If you know someone who faces a physical challenge and is having difficulty meeting people, I'd love to hear from you. If you're a disabled person who has faced the singles world and found it a daunting place, please let me know. But mostly, if you've overcome your challenge and met that special someone, I would love to hear your story.

7 Tips for Keeping Romance Alive

Routine is the deadly killer of fun and romance. Here are 7 tips to keep the spark alive!


1. Keep Things Interesting. Learn as much as you can about what your partner enjoys, what he/she likes, and of course, hopefully you like those things too. Then plan to actually DO these things - together!

2. Don't lose the "date night" energy that's always there at the beginning! Plan a date night at least once a week - or as often as is realistic for you.

3. Surprise him - all men love surprises. Show him you're thinking about him in the little ways that count. Leave a note for him, do something special, buy some sexy lingerie - whatever you think he'll enjoy!

4. Plan romance - how about something sexy? Perhaps a bubble bath for two with candle light? Get creative! It doesn't have to cost money to have a fun, sexy, romantic time!

5. Keep flirting! It's necessary to keep the sparks flying!

6. Don't get overly comfortable. Pay attention to the things you paid attention to in the beginning! Be sure you look your best, your breath is fresh, your hair looks nice. If you wear makeup, keep it up! Be yourself, but don't let yourself go now that you've "got him".

7. Keep your Positive Attitude! It's easy to be positive in the beginning when things are exciting! But, as you get to know each other, it's easy to begin picking on the negatives. We're all human. We all have our "stuff".  Focus on the positive things you found that attracted you in the beginning. This is not to suggest however, that you ignore red flags.

And speaking of Red Flags .... that's another topic for another day. Stay tuned ...

University Students and Dating

I've had an unusual number of inquiries lately about campus dating, online dating for students, and all the safety issues that go along with that. But an interesting twist has arisen. It seems many students who find campus romance, dating that special someone throughout their college years feel they should follow the next logical progression after graduation - find a job and get married. The problem seems to be, they don't really know who they are or what they want - they stick with what's been familiar all through college and marry him, or her.

A few years later it's kids - and often, sadly, a few years later, it's divorce. Are we marrying the wrong people because that's the next logical step?

Helping university students understand themselves, what they need from a relationship, discovering and uncovering what their non-negotiables and deal breakers are - and then how to tell if their college romance is sustainable -  is something I've started doing primarily through coaching and speaking. Creating awareness, providing information, enabling self discovery.

What is your experience with this? What are your thoughts?

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